They say you learn something new every day. "Something" as in one thing a day. Not plural! Apparently "they" never adopted a child as we have found that you learn several new things every day. Michelle and I have been learning a lot about attachment lately. While we educate ourselves about attachment, it's just as important that we educate those close to us about the subject as we'll need help to stay on task with this ultra-important phase of our family development.
Here is a little lesson from someone much more knowledgeable than I on this topic.
Stay Home
Stick close to home and avoid the revolving door of visitors until the baby has had time to adjust and learn who his parents are. Remember, you are strangers to this baby. He has not been waiting a long time for you. When the time comes to introduce the baby to family and friends, it is best to limit holding to Mother and Father.
More to come on this topic.....
Yes, stay home for a long time! And truly try to stick with the "no one holds the baby but us" rule. We ignored it with 1 and did it with 2. The differences are amazing!
ReplyDeleteI've been learning a lot about attachment, too! There is so much great information out there, and it is great to have some ideas about what to do and what not to do. Thank you for sharing the information you are learning!
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